This is a powerful option for understanding, breaking and changing long standing and often generational family patterns that are not working – evidenced by painful symptoms the family is experiencing. Families come in with thousands of stories (symptoms) that all boil down to only a few causal factors. In therapy we don’t indulge in the symptoms but instead dive into identifying those few causes. Fixing those trouble spots clears up the symptoms.
Therapy creates a safe, contained space to learn how to communicate, to be heard and understood by one another, and learn how find true, fair agreements and boundaries that bring out the best in everyone… instead of the worst.
This work teaches empathy and listening in a directive and positive environment where stuck and repeated arguments are finally deconstructed and cleared up. Each person in the family learns the cause-and-effect of what they say and do and how to shift that to create much healthier, loving, efficient conversations.
Family members learn how to help each other and themselves through mistakes without shame or blame and how to be a better “teammate” in the family. It all puts us closer to operating within our own value system and reduces (most often unwittingly) hypocritical behaviors. You learn how it is to be on the receiving end of YOU and how to interact in the way you want to be treated. This way trust can be earned legitimately.